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Alcatraz Prison Break With Tara From VH1′s The PickUp Artist 2 and PickUpTara.com
Alcatraz Prison Break With Tara From VH1′s The PickUp Artist 2 and PickUpTara.com. Tara visits Alcatraz and shares a little of her journey. Tara explains how being in a relationship doesn’t have to feel like you have been sentenced to prison. Also, getting out of the relationship should be easier than breaking out of Alcatraz. Please subscribe to PickUpTara’s channel and visit http://www.pickuptara.com.
Tara Interviews Todd on His Experience and Life After the Show!
Q: Describe yourself in a nutshell.
A: I’m a confident guy that’s down to earth and fun to be around. I smile a lot… I think it’s my optimism and the fact I know I have a great life filled with great people. Right now I’m pursuing a career in the fire service. That’s one of a few places where my heart resides. In the future I plan on getting another degree, launching a website, starting my own company, and pursuing my writing. I also plan on staying involved in pick up… just not the creepy side. I’m the kind of guy that likes the person he sees when he looks in the mirror. I don’t mind working hard for what I want… I expect to.
Q: How would you describe your ideal dream woman?
A: She’s quirky, confident, and just a little sarcastic. She laughs easily and conveys an ambiance of optimism and good energy. I’m a sucker for great eyes and a good smile… a little shyness is cute but too many inhibitions are a turnoff. I love the dark hair/dark eye combo but I mostly date blondes. Go figure.
Q: What is your idea of a perfect date?
A: The “Nap Date” is easily my favorite. My roommate actually turned me onto the idea. I’m currently working two jobs and still working towards a career so I spend a lot of my days exhausted. I really wanted to see the girl I was dating but I was beyond tired so he told me to call her up, tell her I was taking a nap, and invite her over to join me. She loved the idea. It builds a TON of comfort… although sometimes you don’t sleep a whole lot 
It really is a beautiful thing but you don’t want to overdo it… I always make sure the date following a nap date is something real special and memorable… otherwise you’ll just look like a bum. Aside from sleeping my favorite dates include baseball games, live music, dancing, something playful and active (like Frisbee in the park, batting cages, or the driving range) a latte and someplace with a great view, or the shooting range… Women LOVE shooting guns. It’s a weird turn on.
Q: What person living today do you most relate to and why? Do you have any role models that you look up to?
A: Ron Paul has been a big source of inspiration for me. He was a little known presidential candidate during this last election. If you think Obama is well spoken you should see Paul handle himself during debate. His strength comes from his integrity.
Bill Hicks is another hero of mine… He was a comedian that died several years ago of pancreatic cancer. He was a voice of courage, reason, and truth and he used his comedy as the horse that carried his message to the masses.
Q: What was your experience with women before being on the Pick Up Artist 2? What kind of problems did you have?
A: I always had beautiful women in my life… just never romantically. I could attract and build comfort but I lacked the courage to pull the trigger. This landed me in the supportive role of the best friend. The sad part was that a lot of the time she really wanted more… and I did too… I just never manned up to that fact. As I got older my issues got worse and that added pressure to an already dismal situation. When you throw desperation into the mix of all the other negative emotions I was feeling you get to a pretty tragic place pretty quickly. It doesn’t matter how great your life may be in every other aspect if you don’t have someone great to share it with you’re missing out on a hell of a lot.
Q: What went through your mind when you were picked for the show? What expectations did you have?
A: I was at a loss for words. All along I’d had so many people that were so sure it was going to happen for me but I refused to believe it. I didn’t want to get excited because I didn’t want the heartbreak of having it not happen. Once it did happen I went crazy. It’s pretty rare when you can define the exact moment your life is going to change… I could. As the euphoria wore off panic set in. I was preparing to face every fear and insecurity with cameras rolling… the whole world was going to see it. It was a rollercoaster of negative and positive emotions.
Q: How did you feel when you got to the mansion and met Mystery and the crew?
A: It was surreal. The first thing I noticed was how warm and passionate they all were. They were there, first and foremost, for our success. They were the best teachers I’ve ever had.
Q: What was it like going into the club that first night in Scottsdale?
A: I can’t put words to it. The stress was enough to make you physically sick and I was shaking inside… I just wanted to get it over with. The saving grace of it all was knowing that it wasn’t results based… we just had to show we were willing to approach not knowing a damn thing. It actually went better than I though it would… of course it looked horrible on TV but I actually opened 5 or 6 sets and had one really cute girl sort of hooked. In hindsight I could have number closed but I didn’t know that at the time.
Q: During elimination when it was down to you and Greg, what was going through your mind? Did you think you were going to be eliminated?
A: When it was down to two of us I knew I was gone. Had I seen the footage of him in the club I might have been a little more confident… he had a rough night as well… but I didn’t see any video and if I remember right he got a phone number that night. When I watched the show I was surprised at how difficult a time Greg, Brian, and I all had. Up to that point we were leading the pack for the most part.
Q: What was it like returning home after the show? Did your family and friends notice a difference?
A: I was making friends as soon as I got to the Phoenix Airport. I even had one guy offer me a job because he liked my personality so much. On the plane I got into a great conversation with a really nice older woman and we talked for most of the flight… I used the Mick Jagger opener on her. When I got back to Denver everyone noticed a difference. Family, friends, it was instant. I had my first girlfriend that same week.
Q: How did your life change after you left the show?
A: You can’t drastically change one aspect of your life and not have that same change trickle down into other facets as well. I had more focus and motivation than I’ve ever had… and not just with women… with my professional life as well. The show redefined, in my own mind, what I was capable of. I continued to plow away in field and I went out sarging like it was my religion. I hit every sticking point possible but I kept overcoming them. My confidence and belief in myself was unshakeable… it still is.
Q: How is your love life and experience with women now?
A: It’s great. I came to realize that I had all the tools all along I just needed someone to show me how to use them properly. My first month back from the show dwarfed the previous 10 years of my dating life as far as success and experience are concerned. I found myself in a place where I got to choose who I wanted to take things to the next level with… it was empowering. It was also really educational… you really figure out what kind of a person you are when you’re given all the opportunities to be bad. Eventually I reached the place where I the strongest emotion I was having in field wasn’t insecurity or anxiety or fear… it was fun. Once that happened I felt like I’d graduated.
Q: Do you think that being on the show and learning pick-up changed your personality?
A: The same week before I got taken off the show I was getting the feeling I was losing myself. We were being uploaded with information constantly (we needed it) but I felt like my identity was being lost in the process. I felt robotic and unoriginal and this stayed with me for a few weeks after I’d gotten home. I got to the point where my attraction and seduction skills were the best that they’d ever been but my comfort building SUCKED. Why? Because, for me, comfort building is all about being able to show your un-cool side. They quirky, vulnerable, passionate part of yourself that is exposed once you choose to drop the armor. In time I found equilibrium between the two and I haven’t looked back since. I’ve taken all the best pieces and snapped them together into the person that I am today.
Q: Boldest Pick-Up move?
A: I once tried to number close a girl on light rail. The hard part was that she was on the inside of the train and I was outside on the platform so we couldn’t talk and there was some pretty thick glass between us. I had her and her friend engaged and laughing and her and I were doing kino through the glass, matching hands and silly stuff like that. We drew quite the crowd… inside and outside. I went for the number close by keying my phone number on my phone and holding it up while making the “call me” motion with my other hand. There was a lot of lip reading going on. Ultimately I was denied but it was more for entertainment value than anything… she wasn’t really my type.
Q: Worst experience with a girl (date, relationship, etc.)?
A: The first time I ever broke up with a girl was horrible. In the past I’d always been on the receiving end and that’s what I was used to. Making her cry absolutely killed me. I learned a great deal from it all and I’ll know how to better handle these things in the future. I learned that when you start to understand how the female heart and mind works you are put in a really powerful place… you’ve gotta treat them well. There’s a lot of responsibility that goes along with this game and unless you’re soulless you’re gonna feel the ramifications of it all.
Q: Best pickup?
A: I was out at a country bar a while back with some friends and we were all out on the dance floor. The music shifted to the slow dance stuff so everyone started pairing off or leaving the floor. I saw a really adorable blonde leave the floor and go sit down by herself. I approached, held my hand, and told her to give me hers. We went back to the dance floor and had a few songs together… The best part was watching the expression on her face go from melancholy to giddy in just a few seconds. We later exchanged numbers and we still talk once in a while… turns out we had mutual friends there that night.
Q: If a woman likes you, how could she make herself more attractive to you? (What qualities are you attracted to in a woman?)
A: One of the big things that I was taught was to become accustomed to a woman’s beauty, not desensitized or unappreciative of it, but not blinded by it either. She’s a person and only a fraction of her identity is reflected externally. I’m attracted to strange things… quirkiness is a big one for me. There is something undeniably sexy about a girl that’s confident enough to show her silly, clunky, awkward side. Physically speaking, I’d say that a big turn on for me is a woman that has a natural beauty to her. I’m not into the plastic look… give me a cutie that looks great in pajama pants and a tee shirt and we’re good to go.
Q: What would you tell guys out there who have difficulty with women and are in the same position that you were once in?
A: Find someone who knows more than you do and learn from them. Devote yourself to change and get ready to be rubbed in the dirt before you’re taught how to fly. Know that for every rejection and heartbreak you receive you’re getting one step closer to greatness and being great with women is worth all the negativity and more. There are a lot of ways to succeed in this game… find something that is congruent with whom you are. It’s a numbers game through and through. Approach a lot and hammer away at all your sticking points until there’s none left. The greatest successes I’ve ever had in field often happened after a horrid night before. It’s weird like that.
Q: Closing thoughts? Shout Outs?
A: I just want to once again thank all the teachers. Mystery, Matador, Hawaii, Knack, Tara, Lovedrop and Kosmo. I also want to thank my family and friends for all the support and I want to give thanks to all the guys that took the journey with me for making it so memorable. These guys are my brothers.
P.S. Brian… I saw the video… I love you too.
Long time no see :P
Alrighty.. so it’s been a while since I last did a blog post… college was getting pretty stressful and I’ve been out of my element for about a month :S. I’ve just been thinking so negatively… no idea why… I just keep seeing these beautiful girls at college and not having the guts to just go talk to them. But I’ve found my resolve.. I’ve noticed that I’ve been putting to much pressure on myself and I just need to have fun with my interactions, I’ve made a few female (very cute) friends, and it’s been fun just talking to them about stuff. I think I’m ready to just let go and have fun with it 
Moving on
Rule 10 The Comfort Zone Is the Enemy
MJ
“So are those anal beads?”
A very unoriginal line. This is probably the closest feeling I can get to relating to girls and hearing the same repeated line from the opposite sex. Its been minutes into the conversation and MJ touches my mardigras bead necklace. She plays with it on the tip of her fingers. We both knew it was just an excuse to get even closer. I reply with something I’m sure she wasn’t used to hearing.
Me
“Oh yes, I’m glad you noticed. But the funny thing is this: the only girls that notice are the girls that are attracted to me.” I smile. Build the tension. She smiles with a mixture of shock as her hand just lays on my chest. Then release.
“Too bad I’m too high maintenance for you.”
She giggles and I take a quick glance around the patio. The other half of MJ’s set is just watching with a smile on her face. I bring her into our conversation.
Me
“Liz, I like your friend MJ.”
I wrap my arm around her.
“Shes really entertaining and she gives me shit. Even though this is gonna lead into a divorce should I give her my number?”
Liz eye codes MJ to assess the situation. With MJ smiling and putting her arm around me friend approval was on its way.
Liz
“How about you both exchange numbers?”
I take out my phone and hand it to MJ and she naturally puts her number in. As she does I see Isaac the natural in set. Then I see “student X” still in the same set. I had already opened and closed 3 different sets in the last hour and he was still in the same set. But not just any set but, the girl was a booty call of Isaac’s that he had introduced to him. “Student X” was locked in comfort within a warm set. Earlier that night he was locked into another warm set of bar regulars that we see every weekend. There was no cold approaching going on from him.
I finish up with MJ as I open a mixed 3 set with the mute and deaf opener.
Me
“I gotta get back to my friends but how do you guys know each other?”
Student X and Isaac disappear and I continue forth.
As the night came closer to the end I found “Student X” on the opposite patio by himself eating a basket of wings. He tells me that hes improved on his previous sticking point of reframing. He also tells me that hes opened less than 10 sets tonight.
Student X has good approach skills and comfort skills but none of that matters when there is no approach.
In the post game analysis. Yes I’m getting hungry as I write this so I’m just gonna wrap it up here as opposed to my usual over the top detailed field reports/blogs.
Comfort is your enemy. Not comfort as in the next step after attraction but comfort sets. Sets that already has some rapport in it. ex/ friend of friends, acquaintance of a friend, previously opened sets that you see week after week.
Although warm sets like those can get you into a talkative state, your body will get comfortable and your brain won’t want to push yourself out of that comfort to open a cold set.
Recognize what is going on in your situations and take action. Tell your brain to shut up and go.
Sarge on friends.
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Jcred
“Ariel huh?
OMG were so gonna dress you
up in a mermaid outfit with a red wig,
Then you can swim around in my pool
and sing to my guests when I have a
pool party” 11/13/2008
The Ex
VH1′s The Pickup Artist 2 Recap Episode 4
The PickUp Artist 2 Brian
Special thanks to VH1 for the article. To view the original article click HERE!
The boys get grabby and slobbery in the latest episode of The Pick Up Artist. That’s what happens when a professional sexologist lets them get frisky with her in the name of research. Unfortunately this sets an unrealistic precedent: while some women will let you grope them in the dark for 90 seconds, others won’t even give out their number even after some polite conversation about meerkats. Todd finds that out the hard way this week and ultimately, he’s sent home.
When Mystery arrives at the house after the last elimination, he wants to give the guys some out-of-the-classroom experience. First he asks our future pickup artists how much “hands-on” experience they’ve actually had with women, and the answers range from adolescent yet creepy (Rian: “Aside from some piggy backs in the 3rd grade…”), to grope-and-bolt (Brian: “I grabbed a boob and ran away”).
Mild-mannered Todd professes that he was a late bloomer and didn’t kiss a woman until he was eighteen. Mystery assures him that there’s no shame in blooming late – our be-top-hatted master didn’t lose his virginity till he was 21.
Enter Erin, a professional sexologist which is, apparently, a woman you can grope without payment or fear of prosecution, and who also has an assistant named Whitney. The two of them help people overcome their intimacy problems. Looks like their dress code is showing-my-business casual.
Whitney brings out a life-size mannequin and Erin asks the guys to demonstrate their intimacy techniques. Simeon gets so intimate that he pulls the wig off of the mannequin and then kneels before her – his skills seem to include simulating knighthood.
Everyone has their own style when dealing with our fair plastic maiden – Rian smooches her every so tenderly on the ear, and Eskimo kisses her and, OH MY GOD you guys, I just realized how Bristol Palin got pregnant!
Brian stares her down intently, explaining that he learned how to make out by Googling it – although I’m not sure a Google image-search ever turned up this move.
Finally, Erin uses Whitney to show where and how to stimulate a woman’s erogenous zones. I used to think Gary Busey filled the VH1 quota for bugged-out crazy eyes, but Celebrity Rehab has nothing on our guys when they’re asked to watch one woman lick another up and down. Greg either has to hold Brian back – or is he just moving him aside to get a better look?
Mystery tells the guys that their reward challenge is to employ the techniques Erin has just shown them by spending 90 seconds in the dark with her so she can judge their moves. Can a person major in sexology in college? Because I’m thinking that there are a lot of people watching this who are wondering that. Erin awaits the guys in darkness while lying atop a pile of pillow. Simeon is the first to enter. Immediately he takes off his shirt and we discover there is a direct relationship between the amount of clothing Simeon wears and the quantity of saliva he produces. In a hurried kissing session, he leaves Erin damp in a bad way. I hope Erin can clean off between sessions because I worry that by the end of this, she’ll be wearing six layers of caked-on saliva and I pity the last man in there who’s reconstituting the spit of sloppy conquests past.
While Matt and Greg cuddle up unselfconsciously, Brian goes in for his Google-stare yet again and says that kissing Erin was like “lickin’ a furry dog.” If there was ever any doubt that Brian has some lessons to learn, he just removed it.
The last man in was Rian who made no mention of spit and instead tells the guys “She is a very pleasant woman” After he finishes, he can’t stop laughing. The challenge has made all of them giddy and has left them with boob-touching stories for the ages. Ultimately Erin names Matt the winner, based on their mutual enjoyment of the challenge, but clearly none of the guys feel like losers right now. As a reward, Mystery presents Matt with an earpiece that he can use in the field; seems like Mystery wants to get all Cyrano and feed Matt lines if need be.
The guys’ lesson for this week is about reading or “calibrating” a girl’s physical attraction, ultimately leading to a kiss by the end of the night in their field test. Brian, whose nickname I’ve decided should be TMI, reveals that the only real kissing he’s done is practicing on a piece of folded ham, but it didn’t work because it was too salty. I. . .He. . .there are no words.
Out in the field, Todd gets shot down by the first girl he talks to. Watching him try to recover was like watching a war movie. Fellow soldiers Matador, Mystery and Tara kept urging him to recover as they watched from the truck, yelling “Stay with me, buddy!” and “You can do it!” Even though he showed some signs of life by getting a two-set to sit and talk with him, ultimately, he succumbed to his wounds and exasperated the girls he was trying to woo.
Despite Matt having Mystery’s ear-bud and getting tips from him in the field, he didn’t manage to get a kiss. Nor did Greg, Simeon or TMI Brian. However Rian stepped up his game and escalated his kino to include back rubs, dancing, and a kiss, although it wasn’t a full-on lip lock.
“It might not have been on the lips but it was definitely gratifying to at least kiss such a pretty lady on the cheek,” Rian explained, obviously excited by the exponential increase in female touching he’s experienced in the past 24 hours.
When Mystery names Rian the winner of the field test, Rian’s giddiness turns into giggles. In Matador’s words, Rian is always pegged as the underdog but always comes out on top, and the fact that he can barely contain his delight at how well he did is a reward in itself.
The guys all agree that at this point in the game, there’s no room for error and everyone decides to dress as if tonight is their last night so they put on their best embellished vests and head to Mystery’s Chamber of Rejection. Mystery surprises them all by telling them he’s very disappointed in them. None of them achieved the goal of kissing a girl on the lips and he wonders if any of them have what it takes to be the next pickup artist, at which point each guy ran to their room in a huff yelling “I hate you! I wish I’d never been born!” Oh wait, that was me when my parents would tell me they were disappointed in me. This show really brings me back.
In the end it comes down to Greg and Todd who are both very pretty. To those of us who are superficial, it’s a surprise to find them in the bottom two. While Todd’s smile can lure gals into a set, Tara explains that she expected more from him but he couldn’t take it to the next level. Greg gets the last medallion and Mystery tells Todd that it’s game over. We’ll miss Todd, recipient of this week’s Fuzzy Farewell Montage.
Inspired by Last Week’s and This Week’s Events Curious of the Male Perspective.
Posted by Elle, a guy’s best friend on November 1, 2008 at 9:04pm
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Last week, I was randomly introduced to a guy at the cafeteria at my friend’s university. The guy seemed pretty decent with an ambitious future. We talked for a good 30 minutes about Los Angeles, the city we were studying in, and of course, politics. He asked for my number, but never called me. I don’t flip if a guy doesn’t call me, but I do find it weird when a guy does ask for my number and doesn’t call me anyway. His name was Michael, political science major, and future corporate litigator. What surprised me was that this Michael is the same one that my female friend currently is interested in. I have no interest in the guy, but after finding out the guy I met and the one she is interested in is one of the same, I freaked me out. I never want to take a girl’s guy. In my friend’s best interest, I would stay away from a guy. For myself, I feel if my friend saw him first, she should have him or if she really likes him, she can have him. There are more guys out there. I never want to be known as the “girl who took my man.”
My friend told me that she had been pursuing this guy for a number of weeks. She met him at a club night in downtown with her girlfriends. She danced with him the remainder of the night, exchanged numbers, and went along their ways. However, my female friend started going to his college to go visit him. But he was always busy? She would text, but would not get an answer until later into the day. She would call, but no response. I thought so myself, why is that? If a girl comes down to see you from her university, shouldn’t you be happy? This is where I become puzzled. He asked for her number, they exchanged, and he says he’s “busy?” What’s wrong with this picture?
I started to feel really bad for my female friend. I’d be ecstatic if I was the guy. I felt like she was wasting her time with this Michael just because he didn’t want to make time with her. In addition, if he wasn’t interested, shouldn’t he just say so?
I understand school is always number one for a student’s priorities, but shouldn’t this guy say something? Respond back? Either establish that he is or is not interested?
So help me understand something. Don’t be shy.
Shouldn’t every guy exercise some proper ettiquette with a girl? Is this guy a player or one of those guys who is just indecisive? Someone let me know and offer me some perspective. Thank you
Halloween Horror With Tara From VH1′s The PickUp Artist 2 and PickUpTara.com
Halloween Horror With Tara From VH1′s The PickUp Artist 2 and PickUpTara.com
Halloween Horror With Tara From VH1′s The PickUp Artist 2 and http://www.PickUpTara.com. Tara shares a scary story about one cold and crazy Halloween night when a pickup artist dressed in a Zorro costume tries to pick up and number close Little Bo Peep by stalking her. Oh, the horror Little Bo Peep must have gone through that night. Will she ever be heard from again? Watch and find out! For more visit http://www.pickuptara.com! Trick-or-Treat!
Drinks with ComedyBoy
Posted by Fun on October 29, 2008 at 11:45pm
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I’ll keep it short and sweet.
Had drinks with ComedyBoy from Sunday Night tonight. It was such great natural conversation I can’t remember what we talked about… all I knew was I had a fab time.
Only problem… he’s short… and he thinks it doesn’t matter to me when it really does.
Oh well…. He’s a new guy that I can have FUN with if I so desire….. otherwise I’m sure he’s got taller friends!!!!
(And for those who want to alienate me for knowing what I want in a guy and saying “screw you for not giving a short guy a chance” I say I am simply SURE in what I need to make me happy.)
Have a great night kittens!
~Fun
